Being a female in this society can be annoying. Maybe not as much for those women who happen to adapt very "easily" (double meaning) to this society. However being a women who still values and respects myself and my image I find the world quite lascivious. I understand the influence that the media has on our people. However to which point of extremity does it get to where men start to treat women as less of a person and as more of an object? And to which point do women stop demanding what they deserve and give in to all of the nonsense? Women have a need to be wanted and adored, just like men have the need to be supreme, strong, and influential. However the preoccupation of our minds prohibit us from treating others and from being treated the way we deserve.
The way I think is a little different from most. I’m not denying that I can be influenced, however I acknowledge that I am not as easily influenced as most. People don't realize that by giving in to these modern ways that they are keeping themselves from having anything of value and worth, in exchange for something temporary which they will continue to need more of. When you engage in a relationship under such shallow and superficial intentions you don’t really gain anything substantial from it. Instead you’re giving a personal part of yourself to someone who hasn’t earned it, won’t respect it, and will leave you feeling empty and unsatisfied from an emotional and intellectual standpoint. I’m not denying that people have their needs, rather explaining how people should be a little more selective in whom they give themselves to. What happened to the woman who wouldn't put out until loyalty is proven? and What happened to the men who courted women and treated them like princesses? Women shouldn’t have to show extreme amounts of skin to get a man’s attention, nor do they have to be sexy. What happened to beauty and adoration? Why do men prefer to see women as an object instead of as a person? I am not trying to sound like a feminist, I’m just tired of everything in this society being about sex. I think our generation is a little lost, and although I cannot change it, I can be a role model with my beliefs and hopefully make an impression showing that there is more to having a relationship with someone than an act which is given to freely by most these days.
So let's get to the word that really bugs me. It's a word that is thrown around like water, tasteless and the people who use it forget the real underlying meaning of it. People confuse beauty and adoration for "sexy" nowadays. I find it distasteful. Maybe it has something to do with my being against everything having to do with sex. However it's true. That word is used to describe an image that is appealing in a sexual aspect. Personally I do not wish to be admired in such a way, rather I prefer something more sincere and genuine. I would have much more respect for an individual who told me that I looked beautiful on that particular day or picture. When you tell a women that she looks sexy, you're really telling her that she is sexually appealing which I do not find okay when used in a casual manner. Again, this is all in MY opinion and I fully respect that there are some women out there that would like to be viewed otherwise.
I am hoping that in writing this it may make the point that everyone should be more selective in the decisions they make, and to insure that their decision is to their own best interest. Of course this is all in my opinion, however some people don’t stop to think and formulate their own. Some engaging in acts they never really thought through and wonder why they never find anything substantial. Others making decisions hoping that it will lead to something it clearly won’t because their affection was never earned or displayed as having value. Overall this article was written for those of us who want something more substantial and not be expected to be society’s version of what’s “hot” or “sexy”. We want to be respected in all of it’s entirety and to be wanted because of who we are, not how we look or what we do.
